How do we enjoy our own company?

I love being alone. I am alone, but happy. Yes indeed! Oh yes, I am. It's my favorite thing. How do we get to this point? First of all, let's establish that you're the coolest person ever, that you love you. Now, if you Don't Love You, then you're not going to enjoy being with you.

We like to be with people we like to be with. So get yourself together and make yourself cool enough that you want to spend time with you.

When you get yourself all together, meaning Mind, body, and spirit, and you're not in conflict when you are at your best, you're being who you are, then you're going to agree with yourself.

About what to eat, and where to go. You're not going to have a fear of loneliness because "Hey, I am not alone. I am with the coolest person ever. Whatever, how can I not love this?"

Can I go to a movie myself? 

(I tested myself out because I really like to take my own advice.) Well, years ago I had kids running around, my husband was working and I really wanted to see a certain movie. I remember the day I decided to go by myself. I remember the day I felt stupid. I walked into the theater, I went up to the guy, and I said, "I really have lots of kids and a husband. I'm just coming because I want to see the movie."

I felt as though I had to make an excuse for this teenager that's working and selling me a ticket.

Then when I went in, I had to hide in the back! I felt so stupid. Everyone in there had somebody they were with. Oh my gosh! I did it the next week and the next week and then it happened. I felt less stupid. I felt less self-conscious. Well, let's just fast forward to today, let me tell you how it is. This is what I do, and I'm sorry, not sorry, I kind of like me more than I like anyone else. That's not vain, there's a difference. I am not cooler or better than anyone, but for me, I agree with me more than anyone else does. There's no one else that is exactly going to agree with me on everything except me. Now, of course, you've got to overcome self-sabotage and the negative thoughts in your head.

I'm not fighting with myself

I want to exercise, I don't. I want to eat this, I don't. That's the first step is overcome that stuff, so you're congruent. How cool it is to go on a date with the coolest person you can think of?

Date Night

I get myself dressed up and about once a month I go out to a nice restaurant by myself. I sit down with linen napkins.

I don't make excuses anymore

I order my glass of wine, and guess what? I can drink any type I want and I can throw food away, I can eat messily, I can get up and go to the bathroom if I want. It's the best thing ever. I can just eat a lot and no one will say, "oh, you're going to eat all that," and I don't have to use manners! Just kidding, within reason. Then after I'm done eating, I want to go to a movie, so I do! I go to a movie. I am able to even go to a movie on Friday night. That used to be always date night. I get right in line with all the other couples, buy my ticket, get all the butter I want on my popcorn.

A brief Interlude on my relationship with movie theater popcorn butter

Which is obscene. It has to be enough that my fingers are so greasy they drip. I know it's gross, but it's my thing, and you'll hear it probably more than once. It's my thing popcorn with triple butter or as I like to say, "Yes, I'd like popcorn with an obscene amount of butter, please." It's my one food thing, It's my comfort food, It's the only one I have like that. So thankfully I don't do it every day and watch the movie.

Seriously, the other day, I have to divulge, I was in a funk and when you're with anyone else then there are opinions that are going to come at you that isn't yours. That's fine for a lot of my life. I'm a super social person and I have millions of friends. But I want to hear myself think that's why I want to go out with the cool, girl me. I can hear myself think.

Taking some ‘You” time

It was over Christmas time, I was in a little bit of a funk and I couldn't get out of it. I usually can, which was kind of weird. I went through a really bad experience this past year, it was replaying and looping in my head. I thought “I want to go see Mary Poppins,” and then I thought of all the hundreds of people I could call and they'd probably all say yes and all my grandkids would want to go, but I just need to go by myself. I walked in, I said, "one please, yes one." I walked in with my popcorn. I sat there, I watched Mary Poppins. There were times I cried, times I laughed. I was so edified, so uplifted,

I was so present with the messages. I was so grateful

It just affected me and no one was next to me, talking to me, to intrude in my little ability to hear myself feel and think. The movie was over, my mood had gone from a low to a high. I was just elated. I thought, "I don't want to go home yet. Not In the mood for society today. I'll see, what other movies are on? Nothing. Oh gosh dang it, what can I just sit through? Well fine, I'll go to the Grinch. Can I have another ticket for one?" The same guy sold it to me. I went into the Grinch and because I was present with the coolest girl ever that agrees with everything I think and do. I should marry her, we're so much alike. I watched the Grinch and I was edified and uplifted. I'd never seen the Grinch in that same way, it was so beautiful.

How do you enjoy your own company? By being the coolest person you know?

Then I came home from the movie, it was so wonderful to make a little dinner for myself that I wanted to eat. As mothers, grandmothers, grandparents, people who are fifty plus, isn't our life full of service? That's almost all I did up until about now. I intend to have the best years of my life now and spend time with me, get to know me because when I know me, I'm better for you. That helps me be my best and highest good, which is the entire reason we're on this earth is to be our best and highest good. That's all my parents wanted for me, and that's all God wants for me.

That's all I want for my children, is to be their best and highest good

What can you do to go out of your comfort zone this week?

Can you spend time with the coolest person in the world? Yes, you can, make a decision, put it in, go do it. Have a great time and tomorrow you can call your friends, make new friends, be on social media, or go on a meetup. Have a great date tonight, it'll be awesome. Have so much fun and live those best years enjoying your own company, and others when you choose it! Have a great evening. Talk soon!